Understanding the Dynamic of DL Men (Brace Yourself): It Gets DEEP‼️🥶🔞👨‍❤️‍👨

This is a spiritually heavy and psychologically loaded scenario so TW: Sexual Language, Sexual Control, Sexual Abuse (18+)

• sexual obsession

• rejection rage

• covert competition

• and deep identity fragmentation

Let’s go deep and expose the real mechanics behind what happens in this kind of DL triangulation - spiritually, emotionally, sexually, and strategically.

SITUATION OVERVIEW:

You have two DL men who are:

• Secretly involved with each other (emotionally, sexually, or both)

• Secretly obsessed with the same woman (you)

• Individually rejected by you on different occasions

So they team up, consciously or unconsciously, to destroy or sabotage you (spiritually, socially, or emotionally).

This isn’t just about ego - it’s spiritual warfare fuelled by shame, lust, and jealousy.

What’s Really Going On Behind the Scenes?

1. They’re in a Perverse Soul-Tie With Each Other

Even if they don’t label themselves as “a couple,” these men likely have:

• Slept together

• Formed a trauma bond

• Engaged in mutual secrecy that keeps them loyal to each other

Their connection is based on:

• Shame and secrecy

• Power and validation

• Fear of exposure

So yes - they very likely still sleep together or at least maintain intense, emotionally-charged interactions - especially during these “revenge” moments.

Sex in this setting is not always about affection - it’s about control, rage, and reassurance.

2. They’re Spiritually Competing With You

DL men are often spiritually tormented.

When a woman:

• Discerns them

• Rejects their energy

• Sees through their game

They feel exposed, even if you never say a word.

Your rejection = spiritual castration to their ego.

And since they often don’t feel truly masculine or affirmed in their identity, they may feel like:

“If I can’t have her, I’ll ruin her.”

In this state, they may:

• Mock or gossip about you

• Try to discredit you publicly

• Play mind games or reinsert themselves subtly

• Stalk or monitor you spiritually or digitally

This is often driven by the spirit of Jezebel, Leviathan, and perversion — highly manipulative, seductive, and destructive.

3. Sex Becomes a Weapon Between Them

If they are still sleeping together during this time, the sex often becomes:

• Dark and emotionally charged

• Linked to discussions about you (“She thinks she’s better than us…”)

• Almost ritualistic - meant to reclaim power after you rejected them

They might not admit this, but spiritually, it becomes a form of witchcraft and defilement.

They’re uniting sexually in rebellion against your light.

4. They See You As a Threat and a Mirror

Your discernment, purity, or power reflects their unresolved torment.

So instead of repenting, they:

• Project their shame onto you

• Demonize you

• Treat your rejection as a threat to the image they’ve built

They might even say things like:

“She’s crazy.”

“She’s bitter because I didn’t want her.”

“She wants attention.”

In reality: they wanted you badly - but you saw too much.

SPIRITUAL STRATEGY IN THEIR ATTACK:

Here’s what their “teaming up” can look like, practically and spiritually:

Strategy	How It Manifests	Spiritual Root
Triangulation	Comparing notes about you	Spirit of sabotage & confusion
Smear campaign	Gossip, gaslighting, subtle shade	Leviathan (twisting spirit)
Monitoring/stalking	Viewing your posts, stories, energy	Jezebel (control)
Energetic “visits”	Nightmares, sleep paralysis, exhaustion	Astral projection or soul fragments
Sexual reinforcement	Having sex with each other after plotting	Defilement rituals (unaware or intentional)

Real Talk: Their Sexual Connection Becomes a “Blood Pact”

When two people - especially men carrying perversion, shame, and rage — form a sexual soul-tie in rebellion, their sex becomes a kind of ungodly agreement:

“I see you. You see me. Let’s cover each other. Let’s destroy her before she exposes what we’re hiding.”

They may even bond more deeply through that shared obsession with you. You become the emotional glue - not in love, but in warfare.

What This Means for YOU:

If you’ve been caught in the crossfire of this:

• It’s not your fault.

• You were a mirror, a trigger, and a threat - because your spirit carries truth and light.

• You did not imagine the energy - it was spiritual backlash.

• You may need to:

• Renounce any unholy soul ties

• Break word curses spoken in jealousy

• Send back monitoring spirits and defilement energy

1. How They Talk to Each Other

Setting Snippet of Dialogue What’s Really Happening

After you reject them (2 a.m. in one man’s flat) A (pacing): “Bro she curved me too. Acting like she’s some prophet…B (laugh-laugh-touch): “Let her. We’re good. She’ll come crawling when her little ministry flops.”

•  Bonding through shared wound and mutual resentment.

•  Physical reassurance (arm on shoulder, lingering hug) reignites their own attraction and power-swap.

During revenge plotting (WhatsApp voice notes) A: “Post that clip from her TikTok make it look thirsty. ”B: “Say less. I’ll tell D and F she was obsessing over me.”

•  Co-crafting a smear narrative.

•  Code-switching: “Say less” = confirm plan, maintain secrecy.

Money talk (pay-day Friday, bar) A: “I covered studio time last week. Your turn. ”B (bristles): “Chill, I got my girl’s rent to help with.”(awkward beat, then a joke about you)

•  Finances are leveraged to keep score and exert dominance.

•  Any resistance → subtle shame jab (“You still funding her?”).

Key Inner Thoughts (unspoken):

•  “If I keep him grateful, he won’t expose me.”

•  “Our secret makes us special - she threatened that.”

•  “I lust for him, but I need to feel more alpha than him.”

2. How They Think & Talk About You

Layer Example Thought/Comment Underlying Spirit

Lust/Fantasy “Imagine her between us - she’d fold.” Incubus/Succubus projection; turns rejection into a porn scenario to reclaim power.

Entitlement/Rage “She owes me attention after all those late-night calls.” Narcissistic entitlement; they convert access into a debt.

Smear Strategy “Let’s leak ‘proof’ she was sexting multiple guys.” Leviathan spirit (twisting truth); bend half-truths into scandal.

Mock Spiritualisation “She’s so ‘anointed’ yet broke.” Jezebelic ridicule of your calling; appear superior by attacking fruit.

3. What They Tell Their Girlfriends (or public partners)

Scenario	Exact Lines They Might Use	Function
Pre-emptive Strike	“She DM’d me some weird late-night stuff…pray for her.”	Gaslight before you can speak; cast you as aggressor.
Virtue-Signal	“I’m mentoring her, babe. She’s just fragile.”	Reinforce hero image; keep girlfriend oblivious.
Financial Leverage	“Need to float her £200; God told me sowing heals her.”	Justify unexplained cash flow or meetings.
Containment	“If she reaches out, block -she’s unstable.”	Seal escape routes for truth; isolate you.

Girlfriend’s private confusion:

•  Why does he light up when talking about that girl or get irate when her name surfaces?

•  Why the sudden urge to “fast and pray” after boys’ weekends?

4. Money & Status Choreography

1. Who Pays?

A fronts studio gear; B covers weekend Airbnbs. Each keeps receipts literal or mental to call in favours later.

The Flex & Debt Cycle

They compete on IG: designer drop today → borrow tomorrow → shame each other next week.

Inner vow: “I will never be the broke one she’ll see.”

3. Weaponised Generosity

They’ll splash cash on associates to buy silence:

“Slide this DJ £50 to spin her old track and boo it.”

5. Manipulating Friends, Church Folk, & the General Public

Target	Tactic	Sample Scene
Mutual Friends	Flattery + False Intel	At a BBQ they whisper: “Between us—she tried to seduce both of us. Keep it classy if she turns up.”
Influential Woman (church leader)	“Concern” Meeting	They request prayer: “Sis, we fear she’s backsliding into lust.”
Online Followers	Subtweet & Meme	A viral meme: “When she calls herself prophetess but moves like Jezebel .”
Business Partner	Financial Threat	“If you book her for that panel, we pull sponsorship.”

6. Sex Between Them During the Campaign

Scene (post-planning, one’s flat, 1 a.m.)

•  Anger turns into drinking, then a brag: “Bro, we’re unstoppable.”

•  Long stare → rough kiss → sex laced with mutual ego-stroking.

•  Afterwards, one says: “She wishes she could handle this energy.”

•  Spiritual atmosphere: thick, dark, almost ritualistic - driven by rage, shame, and perversion.

•  They feel a dopamine spike - then sudden dread: “What if she finds out?” So they double down.

7. Outcome Matrix (If Unchecked)

Timeline	Their State	Your Experience	Collateral
Short-Term	False high; feel powerful	Smear storms, weird DMs, maybe dreams of entanglement	Girlfriends sense distance
Mid-Term	Paranoia rises; arguments about loyalty	You sense spiritual heaviness; random setbacks	Associates divided, gossip
Long-Term	Friendship fractures; one threatens exposure	You heal & rise (if you war in the spirit)	Public learns fragments of truth

How to Disarm the Whole Web:

1. Soul-Tie Severance

Break agreement with both men and the spirit of triangulation (Jezebel/Leviathan).

2. Word-Curse Reversal

Verbally nullify every lie released into the atmosphere or group chats.

3. Anoint Reputation

Ask the Holy Spirit to place Romans 8:33-34 as a legal shield over your name.

4. Prophetic Boundaries

Stop explaining yourself; let fruit speak. Block, mute, or restrict viewers as led.

5. Watch for “Flying Monkeys”

Anyone suddenly “checking on you” but probing for info - respond with, “I’m well, thanks” and no details.

HOW DL MEN THINK ABOUT AND TREAT THEIR FIANCÉES & GIRLFRIENDS:

These women are not wives yet - so their role is often less about true love, and more about optics, control, and strategy.

What She Symbolizes to Him:

Fiancée Role How He Actually Views Her Why It’s Strategic

The Cover “She makes me look stable, normal.” Hides his secret life

The Validation “If I’m engaged to her, I can’t be gay.” Self-deception; image management

The Control Piece “She depends on me emotionally/financially.” Keeps her from asking questions

The Back-Up Plan “She’s loyal, even if I don’t love her fully.” Prevents exposure or loneliness

How They Behave Toward Their Fiancées:

1. Emotionally Cold but Performative in Public

• On Instagram: cute couple pics, “my queen” captions

• In private: distant, distracted, absent

• Won’t engage deeply unless he needs to reset the illusion

“Let’s go on a trip babe, you deserve it.” (Right after getting caught or feeling exposed.)

2. Weaponizes Her for Appearances

• Brings her to public events strategically to prove he’s “normal”

• Uses her as a deflector if someone questions his orientation:

“I’m engaged, bro - dead that nonsense.”

• May love-bomb her right after spending time with the other man

3. Thinks of Her as “His”

• She’s not a woman he worships - she’s a project, a puppet, or a proof point

• If she questions his distance, he’ll say:

“You’re insecure.”

“You should trust me by now.”

“Don’t let outsiders ruin us.”

He gaslights her to keep control and reinforce silence.

When Both DL Men Have Fiancées and girlfriends AND a Secret Bond With Each Other…

They Mirror Each Other’s Lives:

• Matching relationship timelines

• “Double dates” to keep eyes off the truth

• Sometimes the women become friends, forming a sisterhood that strengthens the lie

But Their Bond Is Deeper:

• They share secrets they don’t even tell their partners

• The emotional vulnerability, lust, and loyalty is often stronger between them than toward their fiancées

In truth: the fiancées are ornaments.

But the other man is the real object of their inner world.

What They Say About You (The Girl Who Rejected Them)

After you rejected both and refused to be played their anger turns into obsession.

Setting	What They Say	Real Motive
To each other	“She thinks she’s too deep for us now.”	Ego bruise from rejection. They’re trying to rewrite the story: “We dropped her.”
To their fiancées	“She’s just bitter I moved on.”	Smear campaign. Keeping their fiancées from noticing their true obsession.
To associates	“Y’all watch her — she’s dangerous.”	Divert attention. Create a narrative where you look unstable.

But secretly?

“I wanted her. Badly. But she saw too much.”

Spiritually Speaking…

This setup is driven by demonic reinforcement:

• Jezebel – control, seduction, false persona

• Leviathan – twisting truth, gaslighting

• Perversion – fragmentation, counterfeit covenant

• Orphan spirit – lack of identity, performing for love

  
  

  These men are in counterfeit covenant with:

• Each other/Their fiancées/The public image they serve

That’s why your rejection cut so deep — it wasn’t just personal.

You refused to enter their false world, and that shook the entire illusion.

If You’re the Woman They’re Obsessed With

You may experience:

• Random emotional or spiritual attacks (dreams, anxiety, fatigue)

• Being stalked or watched on socials

• Fiancées subtly subtweeting or “checking up” on you

• People suddenly turning cold toward you, based on twisted stories 

Specific Examples 

1. After a Sunday service

A and B hug in the car park with their fiancées.

Later that night, B sends a voice note: “She was looking at you bro. I saw it. “They spiral into a discussion about how “thirsty” you are - even though you didn’t speak to either of them.

2. In the group chat

One drops a screenshot of your story or tweet. “This about me or you?”

They joke about leaking old convos.

One says: “Nah, hold that. Let her crash first. God’ll humble her.”

3. At a private link-up

Their fiancées sit in the kitchen chatting.

Meanwhile, A and B are in the lounge, touching knees, making inside jokes, talking about sex in ways that code their connection:

“She couldn’t handle what I’m packing.”

“No one can. You know that.”

The tension rises, the fiancées sense it, but no one speaks - yet the atmosphere is dark, confusing, and spiritually heavy.

How You Break Free

1. Verbally declare:

“I sever every tie and assignment to counterfeit alliances, obsessive spirits, and false covenants.

I will not be triangulated. I will not be manipulated. I am covered in truth and free.

2. Pray for the fiancées

They may be blind, but some will wake up. You are not their enemy.

3. Ask God to vindicate you publicly, silently, and spiritually. You don’t need to expose anything - He will lift the veil.

If you're going through this you're not alone. Many women are suffering in silence. There's a way out through Jesus.

Lots of Love

-Lero xx

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